Sunday, August 10, 2025

Reclaiming Sita

The narrative of Sita, as etched in the original Valmiki Ramayana, is a masterpiece of character development, presenting a woman of profound strength, fierce intellect, and unyielding agency. Far from the meek and submissive figure often portrayed in later retellings, Valmiki's Sita is a dynamic heroine who challenges authority, critiques moral failings, and fearlessly asserts her own will. Her character stands as a testament to the progressive ideals of its time, offering a nuanced and powerful portrayal that was subsequently "watered down" in more devotional, and arguably patriarchal, versions like Tulsidas's Ramcharitmanas. To truly understand the progressive spirit of Valmiki's epic, it is crucial to delve into the specific instances where Sita's voice, her critiques of her husband, and her defiance of societal norms shine brightest. It is this authentic, progressive Sita whose story we must share with the girls and young women of today.

From the moment of Rama's exile, Sita’s agency is on full display. When the news of his banishment reaches her, she is not a passive recipient of fate but an active participant in their shared destiny. Her husband, in a well-intentioned but patriarchal gesture, attempts to dissuade her from accompanying him, painting a picture of the dangers and hardships of forest life. He frames her role as being to serve his parents in Ayodhya and wait for his return. Sita’s response is a landmark moment in the epic. She delivers a powerful and eloquent monologue that is a masterclass in challenging patriarchal assumptions. She argues that the hardships he speaks of are trivial compared to the agony of separation. "What joy can I have in palaces and luxuries when you are not there?" she asks. She goes further, chastising Rama for speaking "like a common man" who fails to understand the true essence of marriage.1 A wife, she argues, is not a possession to be left behind, but an intrinsic part of her husband's being. She asserts her fundamental right to share in his life, both in fortune and in misfortune, declaring, "A wife's devotion is her greatest strength, and my place is by your side." Her powerful, logical, and emotionally charged arguments leave Rama with no choice but to concede. This scene is a profound statement of her self-worth and her refusal to have her life dictated by others, even her beloved husband.

 

Sita’s intellectual and moral authority is most vividly highlighted in her critical questioning of Rama's actions. In the Aranya Kanda, after the couple has settled in the forest, they are approached by sages who beg for Rama's protection against the rakshasas (demons) who are disrupting their sacred rituals. Rama, ever the righteous prince, readily agrees to use his divine bow to eliminate the threats. Sita, however, does not silently approve of this. Instead, she initiates a philosophical debate with Rama, raising a series of profound questions that challenge the very nature of his duty. She meticulously lays out her concerns, arguing that a hermit, living a life of self-restraint and non-violence, should not be wielding a weapon. Her logic is unassailable: "A king's duty is to protect, but a hermit's is to live without harming. You are in exile, living as a hermit, not a king. Is it proper to carry arms when you are meant to live in peace?" This is a breathtaking display of her moral fortitude; she is unafraid to hold her husband accountable to a higher ethical standard.

She then advances a more dangerous and psychologically astute argument. She warns Rama about the corrupting influence of violence itself. "The very sight of a weapon can incite a desire to use it," she says. She feared that the act of killing, even if justified, could harden his heart and turn him into the very thing he was fighting against. She even questions whether killing beings who had not personally wronged them was an act of true righteousness. She feared that by becoming a killer, even of demons, Rama would lose his own moral purity. This line of questioning—“how are you any different from them?”—is an astonishingly prescient and modern-sounding critique of the moral compromises of war. This is not a conversation between a man and a submissive wife, but a debate between two equals on a matter of profound philosophical importance.

The stark contrast between Valmiki's Sita and the Sita of later retellings is nowhere more evident than in the absence of the Lakshman Rekha in the original epic. This widely popular motif, which blames Sita's abduction on her transgression of a boundary drawn by Lakshman, is a later addition, most prominently featured in the Ramcharitmanas. In Valmiki's version, Sita is abducted through pure deceit. Ravana, disguised as a mendicant, tricks her into a moment of vulnerability, but her downfall is not a result of her own disobedience. She is driven by the virtue of offering alms, an act of compassion. By introducing the Lakshman Rekha, Tulsidas’s narrative subtly but significantly shifts the blame onto Sita, implying that her misfortune was a direct consequence of her own failure to adhere to a man's command. This narrative change serves to water down her agency and promote a regressive idea that a woman’s security is contingent on her submission to male authority, a message that stands in direct opposition to the fearless, strong-willed Sita of Valmiki.

Sita's unyielding strength is further showcased in her defiant refusal to be a trembling victim in Ravana's palace. She is not a passive captive; she is a defiant woman who consistently and eloquently rejects Ravana's advances. She scoffs at his power, mocks his arrogance, and tells him to his face that his doom is sealed by her husband's hand. When he threatens to eat her, she is not terrified but composed, declaring that she would rather die than be his wife. Her refusal to be intimidated and her unflinching loyalty to Rama are a profound display of her mental fortitude and self-respect.

The tragic climax of her story, the Agni Pariksha, is often misconstrued as a moment of submission. In Valmiki’s hands, it is anything but. When Rama coldly declares that he cannot accept her back immediately, citing the need for public proof of her purity, Sita’s response is a torrent of heart-wrenching anger and righteous indignation. She tells him that his words have pierced her heart like a lance. She asks him why he is judging her based on rumor rather than on his intimate knowledge of her character. She then voluntarily enters the fire, not as a submissive wife proving her innocence to a suspicious husband, but as a woman making a final, tragic assertion of her honor and dignity. Her act is an ultimatum, a powerful statement that if her purity is questioned, she has no place in a world that would dishonor her.

This spirit of defiant self-respect culminates in the final act of the epic. After a second, unjust exile, Sita is living with her sons in the hermitage of Valmiki. When Rama, upon discovering his sons, invites her back, she delivers her final, unwavering refusal. She declares that she has endured enough humiliation and public scrutiny. Instead of returning to a life where her virtue will forever be questioned, she gives one last, poignant speech and asks her mother, Mother Earth, to take her back. Her final act is not a suicide, but a profound and ultimate assertion of her agency. She chooses her own end, refusing to be a victim of circumstance or public opinion any longer.

Valmiki's Sita is a feminist icon before the term existed. She is intelligent, outspoken, fiercely loyal, and unafraid to challenge the men in her life on matters of ethics and duty. Her character provides a powerful model for young women today, teaching them that strength is not about physical prowess but about moral clarity, intellectual independence, and the courage to demand respect. Her story is a timeless lesson that a woman's voice should never be silenced, her choices should be her own, and her dignity should be inviolable. To reclaim and spread the story of Valmiki's progressive Sita is to honor a narrative that has been a beacon of female strength for millennia and to empower a new generation of girls to find their own strong, unflinching voices.

However in the end we should also appreciate that Tulsidas's portrayal of a less "strong" Sita was not a mistake but a deliberate and calculated choice driven by his theological, socio-political, and literary goals. He had to create a version of the epic that was accessible to the masses, centered on a divine and infallible Rama, and that reinforced the devotional and social ideals of his time. It has to be noted that Tulsidasji wrote his version in 16th Century where Mughuls were ruling it. The concept of Laxman Rekha to keep Site in “Maryada” was a social necessity. The addition of the Lakshman Rekha in Tulsidas's version is a prime example of his didactic and moralizing approach. It serves as a simple and powerful metaphor for the dangers of crossing boundaries—both physical and social. For a society grappling with instability, this narrative provided a clear, cautionary tale about the importance of order and adherence to norms. The blame for the abduction is subtly shifted from pure evil (Ravana) to Sita's momentary lapse in judgment, which reinforces a social message about obedience and the consequences of straying from prescribed behavior. The times (of 16th Century) required re-shaping Sita from Valmiki's complex, questioning heroine into a submissive but spiritually powerful consort, whose strength lay in her unwavering and unconditional devotion to her divine husband. 

Saturday, January 4, 2025

DIVERSITY OF INDIA AND CURIOUS CASE OF “STUPID” RISHABH

 



Hindustan/ India/ Bharat has been a land of Hindus for time immemorial.  Without going too deep, it can be said that it is well accepted that  to call “Hinduism” a “Religion” is also a stretch of imagination. This is because unlike the monotheistic religions where there is acceptance of only one God (mark that G is capital), Hindus never have had one God. In Monotheistic  religions you have only one God, there are these set of rules (commandments if wish to refer to them as) and then there one life. You live life as much as possible following these rules and then there will be a judgement day.  It is therefore an endeavor to live the most “correct” life  as possible as per the set of rules laid down. Conformity to the rules and following one God is hallmark of such religions. Christianity, Islam and Judaism emerge from this school of thought. Now compare that to Hinduism where core to the belief is the idea of “rebirth” (which is a metaphor for cyclic nature).  In Hinduism one believes in nature everything is there for a reason. There is no judgement. Hunger is the primary driver of our actions. If the tiger is hungry, it will eat sheep. If as a human we prevent Tiger from eating the sheep, we are in turn killing the tiger who will die of starvation. Hence there is no judgement as well here. Hunger demands food and actions for the same cannot be judged. “Imagination” differentiates us from animals. However Hindus firmly believe in Karma. All actions will have a consequence. Hindus have lived their lives across the country believing in their own “gods” which could be a tree, an animal, a mountain, a statue. Since there is no beginning or an end and no judgement, Hindus have been diverse. Hindus have also followed their own different ways of life for example a dalit from Kashmir has nothing in common with dalit of Tamil Nadu.

 

India has been barraged with a lot of influences from people from the monotheistic religions and have unsuccessfully tried to convert Hindus/ India to a uniform block. It is for all practical purpose, it is easy to govern a uniform society rather than a diverse one. It can be argued it will be more efficient way of governing. Businesses also like uniformity. Let us take an example here. If you were to market a detergent in India, wont a businessman ideally like one language of communication and one sensibility. Makes for an easier way of doing business.

 

Same is the case for politicians. Present dispensation who has been funded by the “Hindu Vegetarian Merchant class” has also strived for the homogeneity. So be it one Nation- One national language, one education curriculum. In fact if the present dispensation would have its way we would have to declare India a vegetarian country by now. They have already declared some parts of India, alcohol free (as if in Hinduism alcohol is prohibited). BJP under Modi has even tried to reduce Hinduism to one avatar of Vishnu, RAM. Mind you no Sita, Laxman or Hanuman  with Ram in the Ram temple. Or lets say since it’s a Ram Lalla temple then no mother of Ram? They would like to talk about Krishna but not Radha. Radha is a difficult relation to explain through their world view. So you shall find absence of Radha from BJP under Modi. The present dispensation obviously would like to claim  the politics of BR Ambedkar but would never address the core issue BR Ambedkar had with his understanding of Hinduism. BJP under Modi would like sameness as diversity is too complex for them to handle.

With the tone of the passage so far it would be clear, I am fan of  diversity. I grew up in Nashik where near by we have Shree Saptashrungi Shaktipeeth. It is common practice there to offer goat as sacrifice. She is reverent to me. I also happen to be son of north Indian Parents who revere Vishnav Devi of Katra. Non Vegiterian food is strictly prohibited at her place. I have lived in peace with both the ideas. No judgement. No one was correct and no one was  incorrect. In India, in Hinduism there is not correct or wrong way of living life. In fact there are no judgements. Nature does not operate that ways.

Yet in other walks of lives, Indian Hindus or Indians in general have become monotheistic. Cricket (Test Cricket)  is a way of life. The way you play cricket tells a lot about you. In cricket there is a coaching book issued by MCC. MCC is the club who are self appointed custodians of Cricket and own the famous Cricket ground Lords. It tells you have to hold a bat, how much to open up legs. Which shot to play and when. It tells you the run up you need to have as a fast bowler, the jump, the rotation of the arms everything. MCC in England obviously are inspired by their monotheistic way have prescribed the way game is to be played. I must confess I haven’t read the book 1st hand but over the years listening to experts have figured out that a number 9 is expected to be formed in your stance while playing a cover drive. I know by hearing what a smooth fast baling action looks like.

 

The problem arises when there is someone who does not follow these rules. Shewag is the name that comes to the mind when we talk about someone who did not follow the rules. His feet hardly moved but he made that up with excellent hand eye co ordination. Moreover his obsession to get to milestones with 6s made him a outlier. The coaching books was thrown out of window more often than not. He scored  some of India’s biggest scores in Test cricket. However he disrupted the way the test cricket was played at the top. People “judged” him against the coaching manual and he was found guilty of not following the same. The man who played more than 100 tests for India with an average of 49+ did not get a proper send off. In 122 tests Virat Kohli has an average of 47.2. Despite that it is safe to say that Shewag never enjoyed the popularity that was bestowed on Virat. While we like to pride our self as a diverse society, we have turned monotheistic due to our education.  

 

Another outlier that comes to mind in who paid the price of who he was the cricket he played was Kevin Pietersen. The man made “Switch hits” popular. However he questioned the way cricket was being played by England at the time. He paid the price and was not allowed to play at least 3-4 years of cricket.

 


People from India who are supposed to embrace diversity suddenly turn to monotheism when it comes to cricket. This is a good place to talk about Rishabh Pant. Rishabh, we all know, is a free spirit who likes to take the match to the opposition. He works hard on his unconventional technique. It is a testimony of his dedication that he is playing at pinnacle of the cricket after the life threatening accident. He is a fighter. He backs himself and his technique to counter punch  any bowler and any situation. In the last tour of India to Australia in 2022, he won game for India from place where no one saw it coming. Players like Pant who are exceptionally talented and work hard on their skill are no doubt different from the ones you get out of coaching manual. They are who they are because of the way they think and the way they execute their skills. In the 1st innings of the MCG test when he got out playing a falling flick, he was called “Stupid, Stupid, Stupid” by none other than Sunil Gavaskar. It was understandable. Sunilji played his cricket exactly as was written in the “Commandments of cricket”. His criticism should be taken with a pinch of salt especially because he is also an very old man now. However I saw people who otherwise seem to be normal Indians, who cannot embrace the diversity of idea that Rishabh brings to table,  react rather violently to that shot. One of my close mates mocked the shot by showing us the demonstration. (the demonstration was not good as it takes skills to play the shot and fall the was pant does). These are people who are working at top 1% organisations of the world where they make a conscious effort to be diverse. They are Hindu Indians who are supposed to embrace the chaos that comes with diversity and yet when it comes to unconventional players, it is thrown out of window.

 

My problem with this criticism of Rishabh is as under

·         Just because the shot is not in your manual it cannot be termed wrong. We Indian wont follow the “commandments” of Cricket.

·         If a player has practiced a shot (like KP had done with switch hit) and plays it with good percentages, it is wrong to talk ill about it till the time Risk to reward ratio is skewed in wrong direction.

·         What you cannot understand cannot be wrong. It is lack of your imagination. To link the success of such shots to luck is undermining the hard work of the athlete who has developed innovative shot to get an advantage over his rival

·         I also hear that if Pant needs to play the game he does he needs to come down the order. He cannot play that game at 5. The simple counter is if no, 4 can get out 90%  times playing a 5% shot Pant can play his game at 5 without any issue. His records shows he has been successful doing so.

 

Over this series Virat got out 9 out of 10 times playing cover drive. Every time cheaply. There is absolutely no percentage in that shot for him and yet he was not called stupid. The same friend failed to demonstrate the “Cover drive” of Virat.  Why ?  May be because a cover drive is in  the book and no matter how many times you fail playing it, you cannot be “Stupid” playing it. Why ? Why is Virat not called Stupid playing the cover drive when he doesn’t know how to play it.

 

Manjrekar rightly said, one cannot judge Pant by the way he get out. Currency of Cricket is Runs and Wickets. If you have to criticize Pant do it when he isn’t scoring enough runs.

 

Diversity is supposed to corner stone of Indian ethos. The Hindu ethos is respecting and acknowledging what you do not know. India has failed Rishabh Pant by reacting the way they did. Gautam Gambhir, the coach, would be an idiot if expects a horse to walk like a donkey or vice versa.  As a coach he needs to use the different styles each player brings and divert it for the well being of the team. There is no one way to live life. There is no one way to play test cricket! Embrace diversity is my message to all who have read this so far.

My 2 cents of advice to Rishabh Pant : STAY  STUPID  ….. STAY HUNGRY !!!!